Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Goodbye, Garden Gate

Well, hello!
It's been a good few weeks since I have posted here. Sometimes I don't have the time or will to post as often as I'd like....but never the less, here we are.





 Today marked the end of our parent child group ("Garden Gate") at our local Waldorf School, River Valley, in Upper Black Eddy, Pennsylvania. We began last Spring and were welcomed back this past Fall. Much to my delight, I was asked to be the assistant during our weekday in class, as our teacher had just given birth to a beautiful baby boy and would be needing an extra pair of hands. This was such a fantastic opportunity for me and another way to be involved with our school. Each week I helped clean up, washed dishes, held the sweet baby, and offered other kinds of general assistance. Our tuition was covered in exchange, which was very helpful.





At 3- 3.5, W was the oldest child in the group of 6. I witnessed a lot of his behaviors (sometimes pushing, yelling, even hitting) and sometimes felt embarrassed. It was good practice for me to observe the reactions of the teacher (that is, focusing the attention on the child was was hurt, rather than admonishing the "offender".) Many times, W would then offer a hug to the child after seeing that this is what the adults did when someone was hurt or upset. This is kind of sticky for a lot of people. Nobody wants to see their own child be hit, and its also so difficult for the parent of the "hitter", as well as the children involved...







  "I won't let you hit" is my usual response...and I have also witnessed the teacher rubbing W's back firmly after he has hit, without speaking. I'm on a lengthy journey of figuring out how to best handle these situations. With children other than my own, I find it much easier and more natural of a response. With my own child....well, my own emotions get involved, and I know this is part of the problem. I do realize that most of this, if not all, leads back to me. I think its very rare for children to misbehave simply for the sake of "being bad." Children may be bored, anxious, unsettled, overtaxed, insecure, confused, and on and on.I'd love to assist again with the class, but the teacher and I both agreed that another day together at home would be so much more beneficial for W than yet another "social" day. (At this time, he's a part of the playgarden group W, R, and F, church on Sunday, Garden Gate on Tuesdays, and a parent child group I host at church each 3rd Monday of the month.) More time at home is always preferable.

A few recent photos from some corners of our home..



Ostheimer bridge and family




A very special cape created for W by his Garden Gate teacher..


We'll be back to River Valley, God willing, in Fall 2014 when W enters kindergarten at age 5. I'll be looking for PT work as an assistant or lead teacher at the school at this time. So, my master plan is to remain operating playgarden until Fall 2014. My teacher training will be over and we'll no longer be paying my tuition!

 





In other catching up "news", here are the beautiful dymondwood crowned hair sticks Jay got me for Christmas.





In the first 2 photos, I'm wearing them in a brioche bun, which is very simple to do. This link will take you to my most favorite youtube channel for simple long hair style tutorials:) The third bun is called The Elling Woman Bun, which is also relatively easy:)

My Lilla Rose hair clip party is this coming Saturday and I'm very excited. My mom and I are making some delicious food (create-your-own Miso soup, roasted veggie sandwiches, and more!) and I'm just as much looking forward to that! There is still time to enter the giveaway for a free Flexi clip:)

Thanks for reading and stay warm:)




7 comments:

  1. as always your pictures are so beautiful and I love the Elling Woman Bun but my hair is to thin to pull it off (long, but thin). I look forward to following you on your 'learning to not hit' journey. This is one of the things I worry about handling when my baby gets older. As always I will stay tuned to what you write. Take care.

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  2. What beautiful photos- what a peaceful room!
    I feel all that you are saying about a parent's emotions becoming involved and how difficult it is with a child who hits and such- my youngest is 2 1/2 and he is a hitter-kicker-biter. It's been difficult to say the least- and he mostly targets his 5 year old brother, who by nature is so very gentle. I was very interested to hear your descriptions of the teacher and how she was handling some of it. I also try to remember to focus on the hurt child rather than the offender, but that can be hard sometimes!
    Hugs

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  3. I have a biter. His brother was also a biter and now he is a sweet, empathetic, kind and sensitive five year old who reminds his little brother that "we don't hurt people when we are upset". All that practicing and modeling DOES pay off. When you are in it though...it is hard.

    Can you talk more about your hair and how you keep it so....beautiful? What do you put in it and how often do you wash it and with what? I really want long hair but three pregnancies in four years did a number on it.

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  4. Thank you again for your honesty in posting about W's behaviour. I have a hitter, though it appears to be dissipating somewhat. She is almost 3 1/2, just a few weeks younger than W. I'm wondering what you do when the hitting is directed at you. When she hits another child, I'm getting better at focusing on the hurt child, but when she hits me I'm at a loss as to what to focus on. I usually just feel so mad that I don't know what to do!

    Thank you for an ideas you might have!
    Fiona

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  5. Always love your posts Rebecca! So glad that O is with you and getting to be around W as he goes through what O has gone and continues to go through. I really think it is helping him understand more what is going on and how his actions affect others. He is also feeling safer about approaching a child he has hurt. It's really nice.

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  6. Always love your posts Rebecca! So glad that O is with you and getting to be around W as he goes through what O has gone and continues to go through. I really think it is helping him understand more what is going on and how his actions affect others. He is also feeling safer about approaching a child he has hurt. It's really nice.

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  7. Such a lovely and thoughtful post. Your photos are just beautiful!! I have just come across your blog and am looking forward to spending some time reading your blog.

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